My boyfriend broke up with me at 2am on new years eve.
I guess it was closer to midnight right after new years eve eve.
I spent the evening with my friends and afterwards, hopped online to chill with his. I hopped out of the online call to go take a shower and settle in for the night. He sees me jump out and calls me so I pick up.
Obviously, I'm excited to talk about my evening. My friends and I went out to eat and then came over to my house to do our late xmas white elephant exchange. I wanted to tell him what I got and how silly we were during our girls night.
I let him talk about his day first, because I usually let the other person go first. He told me he had a long day and his foot is really bad. In the last day or two, one of his feet started having foot fungus (again). I asked him how bad it was and if it's really really bad maybe he should go see a doctor. He said the doctor would probably prescribe an antibiotic and maybe a topical cream - which he was already using.
He had 3 theories of what could have caused it. One of his theories was walking barefoot by the hot tub that his housing community has.
There was a second theory I no longer remember.
But the main one that set it all off...."my sweat". I didn't even get to hear the rest of it. He started listing these theories and then started talking about the fact that I sweat a lot when I sleep. And I had enough of it at that point. I will not have fingers pointed at me for someone else's misfortune. If you have a foot fungus, you have a foot fungus. Take care of it, that's it.
I immediately get heated and defensive. He said he's done, didn't want to talk about it, and hung up on me. I took that time to shower and wash up for the night like I was intending to.
See Note 1 at bottom of page for context.
In that time, he tried calling me, which I was unable to pick up. So he decided to just write in the messages
"i dont think i wanna be with you :/
like im rly not happy
and i dont wanna be ur bf"
And other stuff like that.
He ended up calling me back after an hour of back and forth messages like that, we talked on the phone for 2 hours. Most of it was him saying "look, now we're talking at 2am about this thing" "now it's 2:13 and we're still talking about this." (BRO you spent more time complaining and talking about something than actually talking about it) He decided that he was going to drive over at 3 in the morning with all of my stuff.
When he arrived, I met him at his car to grab the stuff, he walked by me and put my stuff right by the front door. So I took them inside and handed him some stuff for him. (His empty box to hold magic cards, some card sleeves, extra cookies I made last week that both his friends and family loved, and some apple cider to warm him). He opened it, said none of that was his, and I was like well, if you don't want them, I'm throwing them out. So I threw out the bag of cookies. A little guilty about the wasted gallon sized ziploc but I was doing it for dramatic effect.
I threw out the cookies, said "bye" and walked towards the door. When I had one foot inside, he called my name. I turned around and threw my hands up like "what?" He comes out of the car, and I get under a tree closer to him to hear him out (it was raining).
He stays and talks for who knows how long. About how bad he felt, trying to rationalize.
He spent the whole day of new years eve calling and texting me. Saying he felt bad (for breaking up with me) and that he missed me and wanted to still talk about the problems we had during the relationship. He even said we could probably be friends or play digimon together still since I was saying that I have nobody to play with anymore, I just got new cards. (see end of post for more context)
The one time I picked up I had to be firm. "What is the point of this call? Do you want to take it back? Do you want to get back together? I think it might be too late for that."
He was trying to make himself feel better. And less guilt. Of course he was feeling bad. He broke up with someone the morning before new years eve!
I learned from my experience - it was probably just my last post. That when a guy breaks up with you, you could try to get back together to mend your heart. But they're going to do it again.
On New Years Day, he messages me in the afternoon and says that it's better for him if I leave him alone and not text me. He blocks me on discord, blocks me from his discord server for his twitch stream, and blocks me from his twitch chat (I was previously a moderator).
<Note 1: This upset me greatly because earlier in the year, I had shared food with my mom when she had a cold sore on her face. Neither of us knew cold sores were at the time. So it spread to me. And I now have the HSV-1 virus; if I had it before, it has been activated. And I got super self conscious about it because bf was super "dramatic" would be the best word I could think of about it. And he made me feel super bad and guilty for having it. That if I touched him, I would be infecting him. So I've been super careful ever since. If there's anything remotely uncomfortable on my face or skin, I would tell him immediately so he was in the know and we wouldn't face touch.
Additionally, we discovered that when I sleep, I sweat A LOT. Like my whole body gets drenched in sweat. And him having grown up wrestling with friends and stuff, he had a lot of experience with ringworm. So he wanted to say that theory #3 was if my sweat got on him while we were sleeping and he didn't wash it off very well. Why wouldn't I be offended?>
What a fantastic way to start the new year. During Christmas weekend, he had gotten me into the digimon tcg. And I've spent a bit of money since December 25th on accessories and new cards for my deck. Now I have nobody to play with and a bunch of money spent.
As usual, I'm making my list of "why it didn't work out with this guy" to prevent any repeated heartbreaks from the same person.
